It’s that time of year again. My birthday. It’s not just any birthday, it’s my 30th. A whole new decade to do great things.
I spent the day at the cottage with my parents, Dave, and the girls. Phoebe went to the dollar store the other day with my aunt to pick some presents out for me, and she was thrilled when I opened them this morning. She picked out a little scarecrow family that are meant to be decorations. As soon as I opened them, she said, “This is the mommy, the daddy, Phoebe, and Eloise! Should we play with them now?” And then she took them and started playing. How cute.
While Eloise took a nap, Dave, Phoebe, and I took a drive to an orchard where we picked apples and raspberries. Phoebe was over-the-moon excited to ride on a tractor and be outside picking fruit. She loved every minute of it. After we got home, we all went out for dinner and then headed back home. It was a laid back day, exactly how I wanted it to be.
When I think back on my twenties, I’m amazed at how much I’ve accomplished. How many things I’ve become- a college graduate, a homeowner, a wife, a mother, a blogger, an adult, and a teacher. That’s a lot of “becoming”. These last 10 years have been busy, full of happiness, love, chaos, stress, and adventure. I am content knowing that I wouldn’t change anything about what I did in my twenties.
Thinking about my thirties is less overwhelming I suppose. Most of the big stuff has been completed. I have my degrees, my job, my house, and my family. I guess I’m not too sure what to expect for the thirties besides venturing into the school territory with my girls and continuing to evolve as a parent as they grow.
My approach to taking on a new decade is sort of like New Year’s resolutions. What do I want to accomplish throughout my thirties?
Here are a few things:
– I want to lose the baby weight! Two kids in two years has added quite a few pounds to my mom bod. I want my girls to grow into healthy adults, and I need to model that for them. Eating healthy, whole foods, preparing meals at home, eating around the kitchen table, and chasing Phoebe and Eloise around a little more will help me achieve this.
– Reconnect with Dave. The last 2 years have been crazy, a good kind of crazy. We’ve had 2 babies and bought a new house that needs a full renovation, so Dave and I have had little time to do anything for us. Even watching TV together feels like a treat these days. I want to spend good, quality time with him to laugh at things the girls did or said, talk about work, life, travel plans, new restaurants to try. I miss that part of our life and want to put extra effort into bringing it back.
– Unplug. I find myself attached to my phone or computer more and more each day. You know it’s bad when your two year old tells you to put your phone down and play. Sure, it’s a nice escape from the monotony of everyday life, but that’s something I need to work on, which leads me to my next resolution…
– Enjoy the slow, everyday, little things in life. Taking care of 2 babies all day can be exhausting and dull sometimes. I need to work on making everyday special, whether it is going for a walk in a new forest preserve, playing a new game, baking a new recipe with Phoebe, or teaching her a new song to sing. Phoebe and Eloise adore every moment they have with me, and I want to reciprocate that for them. I need to stop saying, “I need a break!” or “What can I do to get them to leave me alone for 5 minutes?” and start enjoying every little moment I have with them, because the days of having babies following me around and being needed all the time will be long gone in just a few short years.
I hope this next decade will be full of nothing but happy memories, lots of time together with family and friends, and success at everything we pursue. I’m excited to watch my girls grow up, as bittersweet as it may be. By the time this decade is over, my babies will no longer be babies. So, I am going to enjoy every bit of this time in my life.
Scarecrow families, diapers, two year old attitude, laughs and smiles at every funny face I make, playing outside, holding hands everywhere we go.
This is thirty.